Everything is indispensable! Explain the manners suitable for attending a wedding ceremony at once!

A wedding ceremony that is a sunny stage for family, friends, and acquaintances. It's wonderful to be invited to such a place full of happiness and celebrate the start of the two.

Whether you're attending or absent from a wedding, you don't want to behave unintentionally and rudely, just because you didn't know the proper etiquette.

Therefore, in this article, we will explain all the manners that are indispensable for attending a wedding ceremony! We will explain in detail from replying invitations to choosing a celebration and manners of clothing. Please understand the etiquette that conveys your congratulations without any misunderstandings and use it when attending a wedding ceremony.

[Reply to invitation] Manners you want to keep in mind

First, let's take a look at the etiquette you want to keep in mind when you are invited to a wedding by replying to an invitation to notify you of your attendance.

It is better to send a reply as soon as possible

For the bride and groom, information on attendees, such as the number of people attending the wedding and who will attend, is something that the bride and groom want to know early on. When you receive your wedding invitation, it's better not to wait too long and reply as soon as possible. Even if your reply is delayed, be sure to reply by the due date.

Manners of how to write a reply postcard

Always use a black pen for reply postcards. If possible, write with a brush or fountain pen. Erase the letters "line" under the address part (where the name of the person to reply is written) with a double line, and rewrite it as "sama" on the left side.

If you are attending, circle "attendance" and erase the polite word "ご（go）"and unnecessary information "欠席（kesseki）" with double lines.

If you are absent, circle "欠席（kesseki）" and erase the polite words and "出席（shusseki）" with double lines as you would for attendance. You can convey your feelings of regret by adding a word such as "I'm really sorry" to the side of the circled "absent".

In both cases of attendance, don't forget to erase the "ご芳名（gohoumei）" of "ご芳（gohou）" and the "ご（go）" of "ご住所（gojusho）" in the column for writing your name and address with a double line.

Did you forget? Message to the bride and groom

If the reply postcard has a message field, it is rude to leave it blank. Please refer to the example below and reply with a stroke in your own words.

In attendance:

"Congratulations on your wedding. I am very happy to be invited. I am looking forward to the day. "

"Congratulations on your wedding. Thank you for inviting me. I am happy to attend. "

If you are absent:

"Congratulations on your wedding. I am sorry that I will be absent due to a long business trip. I pray for a wonderful ceremony. "

If you are absent, be sure to write down the reason for your absence, unless you are ill or injured or attend another person's wedding.

Whether you're attending or attending, don't forget your congratulations.

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Manners related to ご祝儀（Goshugi） that are indispensable for weddings

The following manners are also included in the celebrations that are indispensable for weddings.

How to choose a gift bag

Five mizuhiki are used for a general gift bag, but ten mizuhiki are used for a wedding gift bag so that the joys overlap. It is important to choose a gift bag made for the wedding ceremony that matches the person you are giving it to and the type of ceremony you are attending. The wrapping film of the gift bag often says "for 10,000 to 30,000 yen", so it is a good idea to refer to it when choosing.

Basic market price of the amount

The basic amount of wedding celebration is 30,000 yen, but the market price changes depending on the relationship with the bride and groom. In the case of relatives, we may wrap a lot, or wrap 10,000 yen as a celebration when we are absent.

How to hand over the gift bag on the day and greetings when handing it over

When you arrive at the ceremony hall, it is common to give a gift bag to the receptionist in front of the venue. After greeting the receptionist with "Congratulations today", take out the gift bag wrapped in "Fukusa (cloth that wraps the gift)" and hand the table in a direction that the other party can read.

Such manners are also used for wedding dresses! About precautions and basic clothes

When attending a wedding ceremony, be careful about your clothes. Let's also introduce basic clothes and unsuitable fashion.

Basic clothing for men and women

For women, formal dresses and dresses are chosen for Western clothing, but for Japanese clothing, it depends on whether you are married or unmarried. If you are unmarried, choose furisode, and if you are married, choose plain color, dressing, and visiting clothes.

For men, a dark suit such as black or gray and a white shirt are the basics. Try to choose a formal tie, white or silver.

Regardless of gender, it is important to be "formal, which is less noticeable than the bride and groom" as a major premise.

This is NG! Fashion not suitable for weddings

In the case of women, it is not suitable for celebration to be too plain and too conscious of "being less noticeable than the bride". Avoid fashion that is all black and has no accessories. It is also NG to choose clothes with the same white color as the wedding dress. Fashions with a lot of exposed skin, such as miniskirts and mules, will give a casual impression, so don't choose them.

Even for men, white suits and black ties are NG. Avoid business suits that are not formal suits and choose simple leather shoes for your feet. Slip-ons and boots are NG.

What does "please come in plain clothes" mean?

The invitation may say "Please come in plain clothes". Please note that plain clothes in this case mean "non-formal formal wear" and not casual clothes.

Women don't need long dresses, choose knee-length formal dresses, and men need a calm dark suit and a tie.

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Summary

The etiquette that should be held at a wedding begins when the invitation is received.
Of course, you should wear clothes when you attend, but you don't want to regret it later without knowing a little manners such as how to fill in the reply postcard and how to hand over the congratulations.
Manners also have the role of correctly communicating the congratulations to the bride and groom. After deepening your knowledge of etiquette, please come to the wedding with confidence.

This article is a partial re-edit of the article published in Nihongo Biyori by KARUTA.
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